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Communication, and failure thereof - delta_november

Jun. 20th, 2009

10:46 am - Communication, and failure thereof

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A long walk by the lake in the storm this morning has hopefully transformed this post from mope into something constructive.  It had better have, since we seem to have run out of storm :).

I like to think that I am a good communicator.  Non-verbal signals are important and useful, but since they are subject to misinterpretation I try to be verbally articulate, clear and honest.  If I have enjoyed spending time with you, I will say so.  If it's getting late and I think you should leave so that I can get to sleep, I will tell you.  If I love you I will tell you.  Often and repeatedly.

But over the past couple weeks I've seen a number of people catastrophically fail to asses how others think of them.  And in one case the other was me.  We all need to do better at this.  Speak better, listen better, and ask better.  Please.  If we follow our present course it will lead to nothing but angst and poetry.

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From:merseine
Date:June 20th, 2009 03:30 pm (UTC)
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Nicely stated. Did not sound angsty or mope-filled - it sounded like you identified a problem and want to fix it. And that you're setting up goals, boundaries, and wish-lists for a better life.

People aren't perfect, but we can learn. The only problem comes when people either aren't willing to learn, or don't see a reason to learn. I think you've stated a good reason - now you just have to see if the others are willing.

Good luck.
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From:olletho
Date:June 20th, 2009 03:48 pm (UTC)
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Oh, lonely moon.....

Yeah, nobody needs any more of that. :)
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From:leahbobet
Date:June 20th, 2009 04:17 pm (UTC)
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I like poetry. :)
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